Sometimes being blunt and marginally irreverent is the only
way to get a point across. That’s what
I’ll do today.
There is absolutely no reason why a role model has to look
like me, yet politicians and the media continue to propagate this idea. I can look up to, admire and try to emulate
the positive character traits of anyone I want to. I don’t have to get distracted by their
physical characteristics.
This recent news feature bought the subject to mind. A star wide receiver on the Florida State
football team befriended an autistic middle school student. When he noticed the young man sitting alone
in the cafeteria, he "grabbed a slice of pizza and asked if he could join him." This so impressed his mother that she posted
a thank you on line, which led to the gift of a jersey and tickets to a game. The mother said they both would be his “fans
for life.” It made no difference to
anyone that they were of different racial backgrounds.
President Barack Obama is another good example. Many people can argue with and disagree about
many of the paths he followed in his life and many of the decisions he has made
or failed to make as president, but there is one series of behaviors that
everyone should agree were praiseworthy.
He got an education, got married and had children – in that order. He stayed married and took responsibility to help
support and raise the children.
There is absolutely no reason why a young man of any background
or heritage cannot look at this and see that it is the proper course to
follow. He doesn’t have to search around
for some guy of his particular race with good behavior to understand that he
too can have good behavior or accomplishments.
I say behavior or accomplishments, because anyone can pick
and choose what parts of someone else’s life are positive examples. A young
swimmer, either a boy or girl, can look at Brian Lochte and tell that hard work
and practice got him to the Olympics, and adopt the hard-work and practice as a
personal goal, ignoring the arrogant, immature and dishonest behavior that came
to light in Rio. A young soccer player (boy or girl) can look at Hope Solo and see a great athlete with a sour attitude, electing to
adopt the work ethic and standards of performance that made her great, while adopting the standards of
sportsmanship from another source. This
is common sense.
But the media sees it a different way. They seem to believe,
if the person is not of your race or gender, most people can’t figure out how
to act or can’t believe that certain accomplishments are even possible. So we hear almost daily that person A is the
first woman to hold a particular position or that person B is the first
Hispanic to do something. Sometimes they
even double up: Person C is the first
African-American woman to receive a certain award. All this does is reinforce stereotypes in the
minds of the so-called victims or minorities.
And those personal stereotypes can be the most destructive. With them in place you don’t need to wait for
the system or the uneven playing field to hold you back, you get to hold
yourself back while you wait for someone with your physical characteristics to
excel at what you always wanted to do.
So instead of encouraging folks to work hard and excel on
their own, the media and politicians continue to highlight this as a kind of “accomplishments
freak show.” They hold people up as role models by emphasizing their physical
traits - emphasizing differences instead of those things that bind us together and then wondering why the country is so divided. This emphasis on appearance is reminiscent of a circus
sideshow with the bearded woman and the rubber man and other oddities. "Oh, look, it’s the first [race, gender or
sexual preference] kind of person in a particular category!" They see it as a measure of progress, but the
real measure of progress would be judging people not by the color of their
skin (or gender or preference), but by the content of their character. (A 50-year-old idea that still rings true.)
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