If you see a loved one smoking or abusing drugs, you try to help them quit, knowing that what they are doing now will likely catch up to them in the long run. That opposition is not an act of hatred. Although the constant nagging may not seem like love to the person with the problem, it’s not inspired by hate; it’s just the wrong approach. Likewise, parents tell their children to wait until they’ve eaten their meal before having dessert because they love them and want them to stay healthy. They deny their children the opportunity to make the mistakes and develop bad habits. Certainly they are not cooperating with their children’s wishes, but their motive is not hateful.
Likewise, if we dismiss political or personal disagreements by assigning motives or labels, we are wasting time and have not moved forward in resolving the disagreement. Of course, in today’s society it seems that the only resolution sought is one of bullying the opposition into submission with personal attacks and accusations – I win, you lose, problem solved! But the real problem remains. That’s why without the behavioral model America will continue it’s downward slide.